I learned tons this year! I don’t have time to write everything here (nor would you want to read it all)!

Two things come to my mind that apply to me and might be useful to you as well.

1. Don’t judge an event too quickly. One of the most traumatic events of my life happened May 11th. My father, age 64, died of a sudden and unexpected heart attack. I had a close relationship with my Dad and so this was a very challenging time. While I think of him everyday, and miss him still, in retrospect, the overall balance of results from that event are far more positive than I would have ever imagined.

For example:

• I learned stories of things my Dad did for others that I will treasure always.
• I learned of the model he was for many - more than I ever expected.
• I learned about the power of service.
• I rekindled friendships with people I had lost connections with - and it won’t happen again.
• I learned (or perhaps was powerfully reminded) of what it means to really be a neighbor.

So while the event isn’t something I wished had happened, in retrospect the balance of the event is far more positive than I could have imagined. I believe this is a lesson we can apply to any “negative” event. The message isn’t so much “look for the silver lining” as it is expect that valuable lessons will come.

2. The power of intention. I find myself talking to myself and nearly every group I speak to about the power of intention. I believe that when we are truly clear on our intention, that we will create more desirable results. Again, a couple of examples:

• if we really want to help someone, the techniques of how we give feedback will become less important if we let our intention show through.
• if we are passionate about a change because of how it will serve others (when our intention is clear from their perspective), we will communicate it and lead that change much more successfully.

Perhaps the power I am speaking of is that when our intentions are pure, our need for techniques is reduced. When we are real and genuine we are more powerful, persuasive (and yes remarkable) people and leaders.

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